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Sermon 80: On Friendship with the World
This is another sermon written on the run, finished in Wakefield on the morning of May 1, 1786, just before Wesley’s departing by chaise for Leeds at 11 a.m. (see JWJ and diary for April 30-May 4). Its central thesis is that all friendship with ‘the world’ is enmity against God. This, of course, required a special definition of ὁ κόσμος, not as the whole created order (as in Rom. 1:20; 1 Cor. 5:10;Eph. 1:4, etc.) but rather as the Christian's environing society: all human beings who are ‘out of God’ and who are, as a consequence, willing subjects of ‘the Evil One’.
What is so odd about this thesis is Wesley’s stress on the novelty of his definition and on the paucity of literature on the subject, since he had grown up in the contemptus mundi tradition and had been strongly reinforced in this by the mystics—pre-eminently, Thomas à Kempis and William Law. A probable clue to such a puzzle is Wesley’s belated ‘discovery’ that ‘the world’, in this new sense, is less the theatre of ‘worldly pleasures’ than it is the aggregate of quite ordinary people (most of them professing Christians in his culture) who are, nevertheless, ‘enemies of God’. This had somehow refocused the problem of Christian living: how can a Christian live and work in such a society? This sermon is an answer to that question. That it was for him a relatively new variation on the conventional theme of ‘disdaining the world’ is suggested by the fact that he himself had preached from Jas. 4:4 just once before, in London on December 11, 1784.
He then published his new sermon in a single instalment in the Arminian Magazine (August 1786, IX.404-17), the only instance of a whole sermon of Wesley’s in a single issue. Without a title, it was numbered ‘Sermon XXXIII’. The title was added when it was reprinted in SOSO, VI.299-322. It was not republished thereafter in Wesley’s lifetime; nor did he return again to Jas. 4:4 for a preaching text as far as we know. The sermon must, however, have reminded the Methodists of the ominous temptations posed for them by their enhanced respectability in this same world and by their increasing affluence—an obvious 03:127by-product of their accommodations to such a world. In this sense, it is a reassertion of Wesley’s lifelong emphasis upon an asceticism within the daily round (cf. No. 81, ‘In What Sense we are to Leave the World’, especially §23).
On Friendship with the WorldJames 4:4
Ye adulterers and adulteresses, know ye not that the friendship of this world is enmity with God? Whosoever therefore desireth to be a friend of the world is an enemy of God.
11. There is a passage in St. Paul’s Epistle to the Romans which has been often
supposed to be of the same import with this: ‘Be not conformed to this world.’
[Rom.] Chap.
12, ver. 2.
ὁ κόσμος is defined below, §§5-7, as ‘the enemies of God’, the domain of ‘the wicked one’; cf. Wesley’s Notes, loc. cit. But see also Herman Basse’s article on κόσμος in Gerhard Kittel, ed., Theological Dictionary of the New Testament (Grand Rapids, Michigan, Wm. B. Eerdmans Publishing Company, 1965), III.868, where only one out of the four basic senses of κόσμος in the New Testament can be understood in the satanocratic sense adopted here.
Eph. 4:23.
Cf. Col. 3:10.
Cf. Rom. 12:2.
22. But it is not strange that St. James’s caution against ‘friendship with the world’ should be so little understood, even among Christians. For I have not been able to learn that any author, ancient or modern, has wrote upon the subject;
And yet Henry’s note on this text had already spelled out Wesley’s main line here, and Wesley had once known Henry’s Exposition very well. See also Poole’s comment in Annotations, loc. cit.: ‘world’ means ‘inordinate affection to…the things, or the men of the world’.
Another curious comment, since contemptus mundi is one of William Law’s most pervasive themes; cf. A Serious Call to a Devout and Holy Life (Works, IV.11-12) and Christian Perfection (Works, III.36-48, 68, 72, 74-75). Cf. also Jeremy Taylor, Holy Living, Works, I.408-9; Robert Cell, Remaines: Or Several Select Scriptures of the New Testament (1676), p. 16; and John Cardinal Bona, Precepts and Practical Rules for a Truly Christian Life (1678), xiv.41. As for never having heard the topic in Oxford, Wesley can only mean that contemptus mundi was not treated in the satanocratic sense he had come to adopt.
33. Yet are there very few subjects of so deep importance; few that so nearly concern the very essence of religion, the life of God in the soul, the continuance and increase, or the decay, yea, extinction of it. From the want of instruction in this respect the most melancholy consequences have followed. These indeed have not affected those who were still dead in trespasses and sins;
See Eph. 2:1.
See Phil. 3:20.
See Col. 3:2.
See Luke 1:6.
See 2 Cor. 9:8.
Jonah 4:7.
For earlier denunciations of surplus accumulation, see No. 50, ‘The Use of Money’, intro.
44. Is it strange that it should decrease, if those words are really found in the oracles of God?
See No. 5, ‘Justification by Faith’, §2 and n.
See Rom. 12:2.
55. Let us first consider what it is which the Apostle here means by ‘the
world’. He does not here refer to this outward frame of things, termed in Scripture,
‘heaven and earth’, but to the inhabitants of the earth, the children of men—or at
least the greater part of them. But what part? This is fully determined both by our
Lord himself and by his beloved disciple. First, by our Lord himself. His words are:
‘If the world hateth you, ye know that it hated me before it hated you. If ye were
of the world, the world would love its own; but because ye are not of the world, but
I have chosen you out of the world, therefore the world hateth you. If they have
persecuted me, they will also persecute you. And all these things will they do unto
you because they know not him that sent me.’
John 15:18-21.
2 Thess. 2:13.
66. Equally express are the words of the beloved disciple. ‘Marvel not, my
brethren, if the world hate you; we know that we have passed from death unto life,
because we love the brethren.’
1 John 3:13[-14].
77. Those on the contrary ‘are of God’ who love God, or at least ‘fear him, and keep his commandments’.
Deut. 13:4.
A basic distinction, especially in the later Wesley; cf. Nos. 106, ‘On Faith, Heb. 11:6’, I.2; and 117, ‘On the Discoveries of Faith’, §§14-15.
Job 28:28.
A summary of the General Rules; see No. 24, ‘Sermon on the Mount, IV’, IV.1 and n.
88. But, understanding the term in this sense, what kind of friendship may we have with ‘the world’? We may, we ought to love them as ourselves (for they also are included in the word ‘neighbour’); to bear them real goodwill; to desire their happiness as sincerely as we desire the happiness of our own souls; yea, we are in a sense to honour them (seeing we are directed by the Apostle to ‘honour all men’)
1 Pet. 2:17.
Cf. Heb. 2:9.
Cf. 1 Cor. 10:33.
99. We may, and ought, to speak to them on all occasions in the most kind and obliging manner we can. We ought to speak no evil of them when they are absent, unless it be absolutely necessary, unless it be the only means we know of preventing their doing hurt; otherwise we are to speak of them with all the respect we can, without transgressing the bounds of truth. We are to behave to them when present with all courtesy, showing them all the regard we can, without countenancing them in sin. We ought to do them all the good that is in our power, all they are willing to receive from us; following herein the example of the universal Friend, our Father which is in heaven, who, till they will condescend to receive greater blessings, gives them such as they are willing to accept, ‘causing his sun to rise on the evil and the good, and sending his rain on the just and on the unjust’.
Cf. Matt. 5:45.
1010. But what kind of friendship is it which we may not have with the world? May we not converse with ungodly men at all? Ought we wholly to avoid their company? By no means: the contrary of this has been allowed already. If we were not to converse with them at all, ‘we must needs go out of the world.’
Cf. 1 Cor. 5:10.
See Amos 4:11; Zech. 3:2; cf. No. 4, Scriptural Christianity, II.2 and n.
1111. We may easily hurt our own souls by sliding into a close attachment to any of them that know not God. This is the ‘friendship’ which is ‘enmity with God’: we cannot be too jealous over ourselves, lest we fall into this deadly snare; lest we contract, 03:132or ever we are aware, a love of complacence or delight in them. Then only do we tread upon sure ground when we can say with the Psalmist, ‘All my delight is in the saints that are upon earth, and in such as excel in virtue.’
Cf. Ps. 16:3 (BCP).
Cf. Ps. 39:2 (BCP).
1 Kgs. 22:48.
See 1 Kgs. 22:1-36.
1212. Above all we should tremble at the very thought of entering into a marriage covenant, the closest of all others, with any person who does not love, or at least, fear God. This is the most horrid folly, the most deplorable madness, that a child of God can possibly plunge into, as it implies every sort of connection with the ungodly which a Christian is bound in conscience to avoid. No wonder then it is so flatly forbidden of God; that the prohibition is so absolute and peremptory: ‘Be not unequally yoked with an unbeliever.’
Cf. 2 Cor. 6:14.
Cf. Gal. 2:20.
Cf. Acts 10:35.
1313. But for what reasons is the friendship of the world so absolutely prohibited? Why are we so strictly required to abstain from it? For two general reasons: first, because it is a sin in itself; secondly, because it is attended with most dreadful consequences.
03:133First, it is a sin in itself; and indeed a sin of no common dye. According to the oracles of God,
Cf. No. 5, ‘Justification by Faith’, §2 and n.
Rom. 1:25.
Prov. 23:26.
1414. It is a sin of the most heinous nature, as not only implying ignorance of God, and forgetfulness of him, or inattention to him, but positive ‘enmity against God’. It is openly, palpably such. ‘Know ye not,’ says the Apostle, can ye possibly be ignorant of this so plain, so undeniable a truth, ‘that the friendship of the world is enmity against God?’ Nay, and how terrible is the inference which he draws from hence! ‘Therefore whosoever will be a friend of the world’ (the words properly rendered are, ‘Whosoever desireth to be a friend of the world’, of the men who know not God), whether he attain it or no, is ipso facto ‘constituted an enemy of God’. This very desire, whether successful or not, gives him a right to that appellation.
1515. And as it is a sin, a very heinous sin in itself, so it is attended with the most dreadful consequences. It frequently entangles men again in the commission of those sins from which they ‘were clean escaped’.
2 Pet. 2:18.
1 Tim. 5:22.
Cf. Ps. 141:3.
Col. 4:6.
Cf. Eph. 4:29.
1616. But these are not all the deadly consequences that result from familiar intercourse with unholy men. It not only hinders them from ordering their conversation aright, but directly tends to corrupt the heart. It tends to create or increase in us all that pride and self-sufficiency, all that fretfulness and resentment,
Orig., ‘fretfulness to resent’, altered in Wesley’s annotated copy of AM.
1 Tim. 6:9.
1 John 2:16; cf. No. 7, ‘The Way to the Kingdom’, II.2 and n.
See Matt. 12:45.
1717. If the children of God will connect themselves with the men of the world, though the latter should not endeavour to make them like themselves (which is a supposition by no means to be made)—yea, though they should neither design nor desire it—yet they will actually do it, whether they design it and whether they endeavour it, or no. I know not how to account for it, but it is a real fact that their very spirit is infectious. While you are near them you are apt to catch their spirit, whether they will or no. Many physicians have observed that not only the plague, and putrid or malignant fevers, but almost every disease men are liable to are more or less infectious.
Cf. Chambers’s Cyclopaedia, on ‘Plague’, where Sydenham, Lister, and Mr. Boyle are cited; also entries on ‘fevers’, ‘infection’, ‘contagion’. See also Wesley’s note on avoiding an ‘infectious fever’ in Primitive Physick, which seems first to have been included in the edn. of 1755, No. 303, and changed numbers frequently during following edns.
Cf. Robert Boyle (1627-91), A Continuation of New Experiments… Whereto is Annext a Short Discourse of the Atmospheres of Consistent Bodies (1669), and Essays of the Strange Subtilty…of Effluviums… (1673). Lee also Chambers’s Cyclopaedia, on ‘Effluvium’. In a letter to Jonathan Swift, Alexander Pope confesses that he is ‘so atmospherical a creature’; see Swift’s Works (1761), VIII.85.
Cf. No. 69, ‘The Imperfection of Human Knowledge’, I.13 and n.
Cf. No. 81, ‘In What Sense we are to Leave the World’, §§13, 14.
1818. But how many are the pleas for ‘friendship with the world’! And how strong are the temptations to it! Such of these as are the most dangerous, and at the same time most common, we will consider.
To begin with one that is the most dangerous of all others, and at the same time by no means uncommon. ‘I grant’, says one, ‘the person I am about to marry is not a religious person. She does not make any pretensions to it. She has little thought about it. But she is a beautiful creature. She is extremely agreeable, and I think will make me a lovely companion.’
03:136This is a snare indeed! Perhaps one of the greatest that human nature is liable to. This is such a temptation as no power of man is able to overcome. Nothing less than the mighty power of God can make a way for you to escape from it. And this can work a complete deliverance: his grace is sufficient for you.
See 2 Cor. 12:9.
See 2 Cor. 6:1.
See Matt. 16:24.
See Matt. 5:30.
See Gal. 1:16.
Cf. Plutarch, Moralia, III, ‘Sayings of the Spartan Women’, 241-F, 16, 17: ‘[Come back from battle] with your shield or upon it.’
1919. Let us turn the tables. Suppose a woman that loves God is addressed by an agreeable man, genteel, lively, entertaining, suitable to her in all other respects, though not religious. What should she do in such a case? What she should do, if she believes the Bible, is sufficiently clear. But what can she do? Is not this
“A test for human frailty too severe?Samuel Wesley, Jun., ‘The Battle of the Sexes’, in Poems (1736), p. 40, ‘The test for human frailty too severe’. See Wesley, A Collection of Moral and Sacred Poems (1744), III.33; also his letter to Mrs. Cousins, Nov. 1, 1778.
Who is able to stand in such a trial? Who can resist such a temptation? None but one that holds fast the shield of faith,
Eph. 6:16.
See Job 9:19; cf. also No. 48, ‘Self-denial’, III.4 and n.
Cf. Matt. 19:26.
Mark 9:23.
2020. But either a man or woman may ask: ‘What if the person who seeks my acquaintance be a person of a strong natural understanding, cultivated by various learning? May not I gain much useful knowledge by a familiar intercourse with him? May I not learn many things from him, and much improve my own 03:137understanding?’ Undoubtedly you may improve your own understanding, and you may gain much knowledge. But still, if he has not at least the fear of God, your loss will be far greater than your gain. For you can hardly avoid decreasing in holiness as much as you increase in knowledge. And if you lose one degree of inward or outward holiness, all the knowledge you gain will be no equivalent.
2121. ‘But his fine and strong understanding, improved by education, is not his chief recommendation. He has more valuable qualifications than these: he is remarkably good humoured; he is of a compassionate, humane spirit, and has much generosity in his temper.’ On these very accounts, if he does not fear God, he is infinitely more dangerous. If you converse intimately with a person of this character you will surely drink into his spirit. It is hardly possible for you to avoid stopping just where he stops. I have found nothing so difficult in all my life as to converse with men of this kind (‘good sort of men’,
A phrase to denote nominal Christians and especially the affluent ones; cf. Wesley’s letter to Bishop William Warburton, Nov. 1762: ‘By this [phrase], “good sort of men”, I mean persons who have a liking to but no sense of religion, no real fear or love of God, no truly Christian tempers…;’ they are, says Wesley, ‘the bane of all religion’. See also Nos. 81, ‘In What Sense we are to Leave the World’, §13 (where Wesley equates the term with ‘worthy’); 83,‘On Patience’, §2; 108,‘On Riches’, II.4; 125;‘On a Single Eye’, II.2; 131, ‘The Danger of Increasing Riches’, I.6; 147, ‘Wiser than the Children of Light’, I, II; and 150, ‘Hypocrisy in Oxford’, I.9. The phrase also occurs in the sense in which Wesley uses it in Richard Graves, Spiritual Quixote (1772), II.21, 26, 30, 89.
2222. It may be the persons who are desirous of your acquaintance, though they are not experienced in religion, yet understand it well, so that you frequently reap advantage from their conversation. If this be really the case (as I have known a few instances of the kind) it seems you may converse with them; only very sparingly and very cautiously. Otherwise you will lose more of your spiritual life than all the knowledge you gain is worth.
2323. ‘But the persons in question are useful to me in carrying on my temporal business. Nay, on many occasions they are necessary to me, so that I could not well carry it on without them.’ Instances of this kind frequently occur. And this is doubtless a sufficient 03:138reason for having some intercourse, perhaps frequently, with men that do not fear God. But even this is by no means a reason for your contracting an intimate acquaintance with them. And you here need to take the utmost care ‘lest even by that converse with them which is necessary, while your fortune in the world increases, the grace of God should decrease in your soul.’
Wesley may be paraphrasing himself; cf. §§3 (end), 10, 20 (end).
2424. There may be one more plausible reason given for some intimacy with an unholy man. You may say: ‘I have been helpful to him. I have assisted him when he was in trouble. And he remembers it with gratitude. He esteems and loves me, though he does not love God. Ought I not then to love him? Ought I not to return love for love? Do not even heathens and publicans so?’
See Matt. 5:46.
2525. ‘But must I not be intimate with my relations? And that whether they fear God or not? Has not his providence recommended these to me?’ Undoubtedly it has: but there are relations nearer or more distant. The nearest relations are husbands and wives. As these have taken each other for better for worse,
An echo of the troth in ‘The Solemnization of Matrimony’ in the BCP: ‘…for better for worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health’.
See Matt. 19:6; Mark 10:9; also repeated by the priest in ‘The Solemnization of Matrimony’, ibid. But note Wesley’s added ground for divorce here; there is no precedent for it in Anglican canon law or Caroline divinity (cf. More and Cross, Anglicanism, pp. 661-66).
Cf. Prov. 22:6.
2626. But allowing that ‘the friendship of the world is enmity against God’, and consequently that it is the most excellent way, indeed the only way to heaven, to avoid all intimacy with worldly men; yet who has resolution to walk therein? Who even of those that love or fear God? For these only are concerned in the present question. A few I have known who even in this respect were lights in a benighted land; who did not and would not either contract or continue any acquaintance with persons of the most refined and improved understanding, and the most engaging tempers, merely because they were of the world, because they were not alive to God. Yea, though they were capable of improving them in knowledge, or of assisting them in business. Nay, though they admired and esteemed them for that very religion which they did not themselves experience: a case one would hardly think possible, but of which there are many instances at this day. Familiar intercourse even with these they steadily and resolutely refrain from, for conscience’ sake.
2727. Go thou and do likewise,
See Luke 10:37.
Gal. 3:26.
See Gal. 1:16.
See Matt. 5:29.
See Matt. 18:8-9.
See Acts 17:30.
1 John 1:7.
See Ecclus. 13:1.
1 Tim. 5:22.
2828. But whatever others do, whether they will hear or whether they will forbear,
Ezek. 2:5, 7; 3:11.
See 2 Sam. 1:19, 25, 27.
Cf. Thomas Parnell, ‘The Hermit’, l. 227: ‘And measured back his steps to earth again.’ Cf. Wesley, A Collection of Moral and Sacred Poems (1744), I.275. See also Nos. 71, ‘Of Good Angels’, I.7; 81, ‘In What Sense we are to Leave the World’, §11; and 88,‘On Dress’, §25; also Wesley’s letters to Lady Rawdon, Mar. 18, 1760; and the Earl of Dartmouth, July 26, 1764.
2 Cor. 6:17.
Cf. 1 John 1:3.
Cf. 2 Cor. 6:18.
Wakefield, May 1, 1786
Place and date as in AM.
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